I woke up this morning and didn’t feel great.  I felt a resistance to writing.

Having said that I woke up wanting to achieve something today and that was to design a structure around my new website; to come up with some ideas around the structure, logos and colour scheme etc

Where I’d normally set myself up for the day physically, emotionally and mentally by going for a run, stretching, asking myself some great questions and exploring my outcomes for the day, instead I went straight into focusing on and creating this new website layout.

The lesson I got from this is is about decisions, the power of decisions and how we make them.  It’s more than I want to go into here, suffice to say there was a strategy I used there which is very useful and it certainly didn’t involve analysing much!

“It is in our moments of decision that our destiny is created” Anthony Robbins

You see, decisions happen in a moment, change happens in a moment!  But it can take a long time to get to the point of change or the decision.

So the book I’m writing is called Be Do & Have Anything, which is a pretty big claim! Having said that I do to truly believe that we can Be, Do & Have Anything!  If we simply learn how to learn understand what we truly want and the patterns of human behaviour that hold us back as well as those that get the results we want.

There are people out there in this world who have achieved enormous success who came from nothing. In fact if you look, statistically most famous people and self-made millionaires have come from impoverished backgrounds, traumatic childhoods or are in fact orphans!

So in some respects it’s pain, or ‘problems’ that can be the very catalyst or driver for success.  If you look up the dictionary definition of proBLEM – a blem is something symbolic throw in the way.  And ‘pro’ is something that comes before – your outcome!

I believe that success without fulfillment is failure and so rather than aiming at success, and possibly achieving it at the expense of happiness or all the other important things in our life, I believe that we should be aiming at becoming ‘the best me” possible.

You see most people in modern times have until now (and this is an enormous generalisation) aimed to have nice cars, houses, televisions, clothes and so on.  And to have what they think will make them happy. But generally it doesn’t create sustainable happiness or fulfillment because our emotional state changes all the time.

They tend to think in terms of

HAVE  X
DO  Y
BE  HAPPY

rather than BE, DO & HAVE…

This is the paradox of humanity, impermanence.  We aim and strive for certain things like happiness, a bigger house or a good job and then the feeling we get is only temporary so in trying to accumulate or have we’re missing the rules of the game.  The question now then, is what do we do?

Well have been conditioned or taught in Western society to do what we enjoy, to get a good education, then a good job. But this doesn’t make us happy in the long term either. It is only temporary.  There is a lot to be said for doing what you love or doing what you enjoy and we’ll be exploring how to find and follow your passions in life in due course but for now, and to illustrate a point – most people want to have so they can be happy and then they do things so that they can have things they think will make them happy and in doing so miss the rules of the game, the game of life. And that is that in order to be happy, we have to be.

There is no road to happiness, happiness is the road.

So the sequence I believe, in order to be truly happy is in fact

BE
DO
HAVE

We don’t have or do happiness, we are happy.  We aren’t human doings or human havings but human beings. Be happy, Do things that make you and others happy and then, in time you can Have Anything!

And so in learning how to be, and learning who you are, in being first, and then doing, we can then have anything we truly want and start to understand the paradoxical nature of the world by turning things upside down and going with the flow of the Universe, rather than the demands of our ego.  We then find our place in this world – where there is more joy, more possibility and more passion than most people would ever have dreamt of.

So who are you?

And how do you know when you are being your best?

And I wonder how you can set yourself up each day to be the best you, you can possibly be?

“This” is the very first word of my book.  I mean I have written a lot of the years and I have journalled, mind-mapped, written a chapter outline, book proposals, blogs and so on… but I have until this very moment not actually started to write, on a computer, the beginnings of my written book with the outcome as one cohesive piece of work.

I felt enormous resistance to starting this book. And I think now that I have started this could be the start of a tidal wave or avalanche of inspiring thought provoking consciousness-raising words that begin to formulate my book and indeed blog. And perhaps I’ll even begin to formulate another book which I have in my mind, as a result.

This morning I woke up and I realised there I’ve been putting off this moment for a long and the implications of continuing to put off this moment any longer would start to affect me both financially and emotionally. And I didn’t want that! So my motivation in this moment, is primarily away from rather than towards… avoiding pain rather than to gain pleasure. On the other hand having started writing, I now find myself very much focused on creating something of value, something that changes lives and something that helps me to clarify my thoughts, beliefs and experience in a way that also helps others do the same.

I think that by writing this book, as I sit here now, the easiest way to begin that process on a consistent basis is by a writing as if I am blogging. That way it becomes more of a stream of consciousness on a daily basis which I can put to paper, than a rigid, linear, focused exercise which is not the way my brain works. Part of the resistance I’ve had until now is this notion of having to sit down and write according to the way that I have formulated the book in my mind; in a way that I have to write step-by-step, chapter by chapter, sub chapter by sub chapter. But I don’t want to do that.

I want to write with creativity and inspiration and connectivity and passion and I believe that those are the things that make the difference; the difference that makes a difference in life. And now I believe that those are the things that make the difference in my writing in a way that connects people who they actually are, and the potential that they can bring to themselves and the world. And that an inspiring place to be!

And so here I am, having not really started my book but having started the stream of consciousness. And that feels good. Now, stream of consciousness out of the way, I feel that I could start writing in a way that really connects people and helps people to be, do and have anything they truly want!

I have also had some revelations about the editing process, and I think that by having people help me to edit, transcribe, and copyright my verbal dictations and my own writing I can save myself an awful lot of time and energy by simply getting on with the job I am good at and allowing others to tidy up the edges and to make better what I’ve already made good.

So here goes… I’m blogging my consciousness and then going to edit and turn the bits I like into a book and have someone else edit those… buckle up.  It’s started… all with a word!

And I wonder what you will now do…

What is the barrier to you creating something amazing right now?

What are you committed to starting, that you have been putting off, until now?

Love and light
Tristan